A Little Love Can Go a Long Way

Life & Community, Life Coaching
There is a story about a Johns Hopkins University professor who invited his graduate students to do research on 200 boys between the ages of 12 and 16 living in impoverished circumstances.  The students were asked to investigate the boys’ backgrounds and living situations and to predict their chances for the future.  Using the methods they had been taught in school, the students compiled a great deal of data, and concluded that 90 percent of the boys would spend some time in jail.  This is what many who read today’s headlines might have expected them to find. But fortunately, the story doesn’t end there. Twenty-five years later, another group of graduate students was given the task of determining whether the prediction made earlier about the 200 boys came true.  The…
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Living Without Regrets

Life & Community, Life Coaching
As primary caregiver for his aging father, my friend Chip had to feel overwhelmed at times, yet he never complained.  He simply cherished every moment they spent together and found joy in the little things – Dad’s delight in eating chocolate pudding, a good trip to Walmart together, a week without doctor’s visits.  They were inseparable – father and son; great friends. Suddenly, Chip’s father’s health took a turn for the worse and on January 9, 2012, Chip sent me this text message: “Dad was doing well then contracted Acinetobacter – an antibiotic resistant bug/superbug.  I need you more than ever. This is most likely fatal but has been beat in some instances. Love you. Sorry to impose but your old friend needs you. Thank you.”  My response came just…
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Stepping into the shoes of another

Life & Community, Life Coaching
It was a horrible day. My grandson was hauled off to juvenile detention and my granddaughter was picked up by Child Protective Services for neglect.  Wait! Before you become alarmed, I don’t actually have grandchildren, yet, but I had pretend ones on November 11, 2011 and I clearly wasn’t doing so well at raising them. On that day, men and women of varying races from corporate America, non-profit organizations, the community, government and small businesses in metropolitan Detroit gathered together to participate in the Eleven Project, a poverty simulation sponsored by the Coalition on Temporary Shelter (COTS) to draw attention to the challenges faced by homeless and vulnerably-housed citizens of Southeast Michigan. Upon arrival, participants were given nametags which indicated their assignments into mock families of 1-4 people.  Some families…
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